How I Became a Dating Coach and Why It Matters Who You Get Advice From

If you had told me years ago that I’d one day become a dating coach, I might not have believed you. I started out as a therapist, working with individuals and couples navigating heartbreak, intimacy issues, and communication breakdowns. What I didn’t expect was how often my work as a relationship-specialized therapist would bring me into contact with the aftermath of bad dating advice.

Time and time again, clients came into my office confused, hurt, or discouraged—sometimes just days after following guidance from a dating coach or social media influencer. They were told to play it cool, create mystery, wait three days to reply, or “maintain power” in a connection. Instead of fostering real connection, these tactics often led to more anxiety, missed opportunities, and relationships that fizzled before they could take root.

I became a dating coach because I knew there had to be a better way.

Why I Chose to Become a Dating Coach

As a licensed therapist, I’ve spent years studying the psychology of human relationships. I understand the emotional patterns that shape our attachment styles, the importance of communication, and the vulnerability required to truly connect with another person. So when I saw the advice people were getting from popular dating coaches, I was alarmed.

The truth is, a lot of what’s out there isn’t actually about connection. It’s about control.

Clients would tell me things like:

• “He said I shouldn’t show too much interest, or I’ll lose my value.”

• “She told me to use jealousy to make them chase me.”

• “The book I read said never to bring up relationship goals until at least six months in.”

None of this helped my clients find real, compatible partners. It just left them second-guessing their own instincts.

That’s when I realized how much people need a dating coach who understands more than just “strategy.” They need someone grounded in emotional intelligence, relational science, and ethics. They need a dating expert who can help them navigate modern dating with both wisdom and integrity.

So I began offering dating coach services through my practice, Therapy for Adults.

A Dating Coach Who’s Also a Therapist: Why That Matters

While there are numerous dating coaches available, it's valuable to consider those who also hold credentials as licensed therapists. This distinction can be significant.

When you choose to work with a dating coach who is also a relationship expert with clinical training, you benefit from insights grounded in research, professional standards, and a thorough understanding of human psychology.

A licensed therapist also adheres to a strict code of ethics, prioritizing your well-being. Their focus extends beyond quick solutions to encompass long-term satisfaction, emotional safety, and your deeper relationship goals. If you've ever found general dating advice lacking, support from someone who understands you as a whole person, beyond just your dating life, can be truly beneficial.

The Benefits of Working with a Dating Coach

Working with a dating coach can truly transform your dating experience. Whether you're stepping back into the dating scene after a breakup or have been trying to find the right connection for some time, personalized guidance can bring much-needed clarity and confidence to what can often feel like a challenging process.

Here are just some of the benefits clients report from working with me as a dating coach:

1. Clarity on What You Want:
Many people struggle to identify what they are truly looking for in a partner. A dating coach helps you move beyond superficial traits and get clear about your core needs, values, and relational goals.

2. Guidance on Dating Apps:
Dating apps can be overwhelming. As a relationship expert who understands the algorithms and the psychology behind digital dating, I help clients choose the right apps, optimize their profiles, and improve the quality of their matches.

3. Understanding Your Patterns:
If the same type of relationship keeps showing up for you, it is not a coincidence. We look at patterns that may be rooted in attachment style, family history, or unhealed wounds. 

4. Support with Messaging and First Dates:
Knowing what to say, when to say it, and how to express interest can be tricky. I offer practical coaching to help you feel more confident in your interaction.

5. Emotional Resilience:
Dating comes with rejection and uncertainty. A relationship consultant can help you stay grounded through the ups and downs so you do not give up or lose sight of what you are working toward.

Virtual Dating Coach Services: Helping Clients Across the Country

While my practice, Therapy for Adults, is based in Los Angeles, I offer virtual dating coach services to clients across the country. Whether you are in a big city or a small town, support is just a video call away.

I have worked with clients in New York, Chicago, Austin, Seattle, and everywhere in between. No matter where you live, the challenges of dating are often similar:

• Finding someone who shares your values

• Navigating ghosting, mixed signals, or burnout

• Balancing vulnerability with boundaries

• Learning how to be open without settling

Through one-on-one coaching sessions, we work together to create a dating plan that fits your life and your goals. As your relationship consultant, I bring both practical and emotional guidance to help you feel empowered at every stage of the dating process.

Virtual sessions are private, flexible, and tailored to your schedule. This makes it easy to stay consistent and focused on your growth.

What Makes My Approach Unique

There are a few key things that set my work apart as a dating expert and matchmaker:

Therapy-Informed Framework:

Every recommendation I make is grounded in psychology, attachment theory, and years of experience as a relationship therapist.

Ethical, Non-Manipulative Guidance:

I do not teach people to game the system or create false personas. I help you show up as your best, most authentic self so you can connect with the right person.

Real Talk About Love:

I will never sell you a fantasy. Love is beautiful, but it is also complex. I help you approach dating with both optimism and realism.

Ongoing Growth:

Even if you find a partner quickly, our work can continue to help you navigate the early stages of a relationship, communicate well, and lay the foundation for something lasting.

As a dating coach and relationship expert, I bring heart, skill, and genuine care to every session.

Who I Work With

I work with people from all walks of life—young professionals just beginning to date, individuals re-entering the dating world after divorce, and those who have never been in a serious relationship before.

I’ve coached people in their 20s, 30s, 40s, and beyond. No matter your age or history, you deserve a meaningful relationship.

I also work with clients who have unique dating circumstances, including:

• High-achieving professionals who feel stuck in love

• People recovering from toxic or emotionally unavailable partners

• Individuals with anxious or avoidant attachment styles

• Anyone who feels like they are “bad at dating” or always chasing unavailable people

Dating is not about being perfect. It is about being real. When you work with a dating coach who truly understands your story, things begin to shift.

Your Next Step: Free Consultation

If you are tired of dating that goes nowhere or feeling confused by mixed signals, it might be time to get the support you deserve.

You do not have to figure it all out alone.

At Therapy for Adults, I offer a free consultation to help you determine whether dating coach services are right for you. Whether you need a relationship consultant, a dating expert, or a therapist-informed matchmaker, this is your chance to start a new chapter with guidance that actually works.

Call Therapy for Adults today to schedule your free consultation. Let’s make dating feel clear, connected, and full of real possibility.